Self-pity

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Self-pity is a psychological state of mind of a person in a perceived adverse situation who has not accepted the situation and does not have the confidence or ability to cope with it. It is characterised by the person's belief that he or she is the victim of events and is therefore deserving of condolence.

Self-pity is generally regarded as a negative emotion, in that it does not apparently help deal with the situation. However, in a social context, it may result in either sympathy being offered or advice being given. Self-pity may be considered normal, if perhaps not exactly healthy, so long as it is transitory and leads to either acceptance or a determination to change the situation.

Self-pity can also be remarkably self-sustaining, especially in conjunction with depression or other conditions. For example, a child at school is feeling bad for themselves because they see others being more social than themselves. If they do not take action by attempting to get to know others despite possible negative consequences (such as rejection) then they will continue to feel alone, and their feelings of self-pity will be sustained.

Self-Pity is also the title of a short poem by D.H. Lawrence. [1] The poem was prominently cited by Viggo Mortensen's character in the film G.I. Jane.